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Question
Dear Mufti sb,
Assalam o alaikum
I am a married man with children who lives in subcontinent. I was involved in committing adultery with prostitutes because I lost faith in God and religion and leaned towards atheism. During an year approximately, I must have fornicated without using any sort of protection with 10-15 women including 1 minor girl (12-14 years approx.). But last year in August , when I was fornicating with a woman, there was a police raid. The policemen tortured me, made video of me and blackmailed me to pay them heavy bribe.
After this incident, I have tried to restrain and control myself, but still I committed adultery once. My questions are as follows:
1. Should I search for my illegitimate children? I have visions and dreams of a young boy but the problem is if I go back to investigate and ask those pimps and prostitutes, there is a very rare chance that they would disclose the truth. Even if they do, the child has a leaning to live with the mother. What will be the status of my illegitimate children in dunya and akhira? If I find him or he finds me, what should I do then?
2. I am afraid that my video would get leaked, please tell me that how can I make dua to avoid this?
3. The policemen have disclosed these details at my job and my hometown. Consequently I had to change job. Now I live in my hometown, but I feel ashamed and guilty. Tell me dua for survival from dishonoring.
4. Should I tell my wife or not? What if she knows later and leaves me?
5. I need to be steadfast in my tauba? To never ever commit zina again. How can I achieve that?
6. Zina is a debt that is paid by female relatives of zaani as per hadith. I have 2 daughters and I am very scared that what if they ever commit zina later on as return of my debt? Will it happen or not? Will Allah forgive me and protect me from further shame and dishonor?
Answer
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
حامدا و مصليا و مسلما
Muhtaram
We have received your query dated 18/04/23, our response is as follows:
1) You should completely avoid going near such places and people which will lead you astray.
2,3 & 6) Honour and disgrace is in the hands of Almighty Allah Ta’ala. Make sincere Tauba and practice on the Shariah, make sincere Dua to Allah Ta’ala that you are not disgraced in this world and in the hereafter.
Read the following Duas:
اللَّهمَّ إنِّي أسألُكَ العفوَ والعافيةَ، في الدُّنيا والآخرةِ، اللَّهمَّ إنِّي أسألُكَ العفوَ والعافيةَ، في دِيني و دُنيايَ، وأهلي ومالي، اللَّهمَّ استُرْ عَوراتي، و آمِنْ رَوعاتِي، اللَّهمَّ احفَظْني من بينِ يديَّ ، ومن خلفي ، وعن يميني ، وعن شمالي ، ومن فَوقِي ، وأعوذُ بعظمتِكَ أن أُغْتَالَ مِن تحتي
Allahumma Inne As’alukal Af’wa wal Aafiyah fed dunya wal aakirah, allahumma inne as’alokal Ad’wa wal Aafiyah fee Deenee wa Dunya’ya, Wa Ahlee wa Maale, Allahummas Tur Auraatee, wa Aaamen Rau’aatee, Allahumah faz mem bayne yadayya, wa men khalfee, wa an yameenee, wa an shemaalee, wa men fauqee, wa Aooza be azamateka an ugtaala me tahtee
اَللّهُمَّ اجْعَلْنِي شَكُوْراً وَاجْعَلْنِي صَبُوْراً وَاجْعَلْنِي فِي عَيْنِي صَغِيْراً وَفِي أَعْيُنِ النَّاسِ كَبِيْرا
Allahummaj alnee Shakoora, waj alnee Saboora,
Waj’alnee nee fee aynee Sagheera, wa fee a’yonennaase Kabeera.
4) Pour out your heart in front of Allah Ta’ala, only disclose your sins to Allah Ta’ala.
5) Read Qur’an daily with the intention of Hidayah (guidance), sit in the company of the pious slaves of Allah Ta’ala and get connected to the effort of Dawat and Tabligh.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Answered by:
Muhammad Irshad Motara
5th Zhul Qa’dah 1444
26th May 2023
