Question
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Assalamu alaikum. My relative asking the above question to proceed with her daughters wedding:
Is it permissible in Islam for a prospective groom to talk to a prospective bride, just once, with the intention of knowing the compatibility between them. It won’t be a video call. Or is it permissible for them to talk with their parents in the call?
Answe
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
حامدا و مصليا و مسلما
Muhtaramah
Muhtaramah
We have received your query dated 20/10/21, our response is as follows:
Speaking and communicating with ‘someone’ albeit an envisaged spouse or marriage partner being a total stranger unto one over the telephone is strictly not permitted and prohibited in Shariah. If one wishes to find anything out about the prospective bride, the correct procedure is to inquire about her ways and habits through one’s reliable Mahram woman of the family in whom one may concur. [1]
The above is regardless of whether the parents will be on the call or not.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Abdushakoor Salim
Student of Darul Iftaa
Checked and approved by:
(Mufti) Muhammad Irshad Motara
13th Rabiul Awwal 1443
21st October 2021
[1] عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِذَا خَطَبَ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ فَإِنِ اسْتَطَاعَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَى مَا يَدْعُوهُ إِلَى نِكَاحهَا فَلْيفْعَل». رَوَاهُ أَبُو دَاوُد.
أَبُو دَاوُد ، ص ٦٣٥ ، ج ١ ، مكتبة البشرى
فتاوی رحیمیه، ص ١٥١، ج ٨
آپ كے مسائل اور ان کا حل ، ص ٣٤ ، ج ٥
