Question
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Country : New Zealand
Assalamu Alaikum. I am seeking guidance about my divorce and duʿāʾ. For almost three years, I sincerely made duʿāʾ that my husband would love me more and that we would stay together and go to Jannah. However, he sent me back to my family home and divorced me without consulting me or clearly communicating with me. During the ʿiddah period, he had the option to take me back, but he did not try to reconcile. I feel deeply hurt and confused—both about why my duʿāʾ was not answered in the way I hoped, and why he did not choose to return even when the opportunity was there. I also struggle to understand whether the way he handled the divorce was just and in accordance with Islamic teachings. How should I understand this situation in light of Allah’s wisdom, duʿāʾ, and Qadr? And how can I rebuild my trust (tawakkul) in Allah after this?”
Answer
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
حامدا و مصليا و مسلما
Muhtaramah
We have received your query regarding your separation, our response is as follows:
We have carefully read through your submission, and our heart truly goes out to you in what you are experiencing. We deeply sympathise with your predicament and encourage you not to lose hope in Allah Ta’ala. Within His commands lies profound wisdom—even when we are unable to fully understand it. Know with certainty that Allah Ta’ala loves you, and that the trials we face in life are often a means for us to run back to Him even more.
Always remember that Allah Ta’ala alone is our Creator, and He loves us more than even our own mothers. Every moment of our existence depends entirely on Him. It is only through His mercy that we are able to breathe, that our hearts continue to beat, our lungs function, and that we are able to see, speak, hear, and carry out every action. Despite our sins, He continues to shower us with innumerable blessings. So remain grateful to Allah Ta’ala for all that He has granted you. When one makes Shukr then one will automatically get closer to Allah Ta’ala.
Turn to Allah Ta’ala, and remind yourself that every situation we face is a test from Him. He is watching how we respond, and through patience and reliance on Him, we draw closer to His mercy. Seek His help constantly and persevere with Sabr. When you reflect on those who are facing greater hardships, it becomes easier to remain patient—and even to feel gratitude that your test was not more severe. Remember also the hardships endured by Rasulullah ﷺ and the Sahabah (radiyallahu ‘anhum), and take comfort from their patience and steadfastness.
When making Du‘ā to Allah Ta’ala, know that it is never in vain. Sometimes He grants what we ask for in this world, sometimes the response comes after a long time, sometimes He removes a harm instead, and at other times He stores something better for us in the Hereafter. Allah Ta’ala hears every supplication and knows what is best for us in every moment.
Thus, there is no contradiction between Radaa bil Qadha (being content with the decree of Allah Ta’ala) and making du‘a. When we ask Allah Ta’ala, we remain content with either outcome—whether we are granted what we asked for or not.
Keep reminding yourself of the above as they will bring strength to your heart. Try to wake in the last part of the night and speak to Allah Ta’ala—open your heart to Him, confide in Him, and allow your tears to fall before Him. Keep on saying that you are happy with the decision of Allah Ta’ala. Keep in the company of pious sisters and connect yourself with a righteous Alimah.
Definitely, after every difficulty there is ease, therefore do not lose hope in Allah Ta’ala.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Answered by:
Muhammad Irshad Motara
10th Shawwal 1447
30th March 2026